>>Take the walking into a room analogy (I think a pub
would be more appropriate, though that might just be
my take on it). Here's a group of people all sitting
round a table, they all 'know' each other, and they're
all deep in discussion on subjects that they not only
know a lot about but care about a lot. Then someone
new turns up, a complete stranger, drink in hand, and
she finds herself a seat on the corner. Well, that
has happened to me quite a few times, and I wasn't
surprised to find myself more or less out of the
conversation. It's the way things happen. It's not
unfriendly,it's not a deliberate snub (though, yes, it
can feel like one), it's just that groups of
like-minded people, even virtual ones, have a habit of
forming cliques that can be hard to penetrate.<<
I appreciate this more than you realise, and yes, I do
know that tightly knit groups can be hard to
penetrate,
ironically, in a RL situation, you would not even find
me attempting to penetrate the group - I seem to be
more outgoing on the net (don't ask me why). As I
explained in my post to Minnie, it is so much harder
to ascertain intent through a faceless medium - In the
pub situation, I would be able to detect a snub
through expressions and body language, I don't have
that to work with on the list - I can only go by
response(or lack of) :-)
>>Can you see how you might be getting drowned out in
the babble!<<
Yes, I appreciate that my posts could indeed be lost
in the crowd, I'm still going through posts myself - I
guess I was referring to posts that were being dealt
with on a particular subject, However; I take note of
your explanation regarding answering the posts of
those you know first - again (as with Sally)this is
understandable.
>>You're also up against some of the most informed,
quite possibly opinionated and in my case at least
arrogant members of the Lyst who are too busy
bludgeoning the opposition with the intellectual
weight of their carefully honed arguments to stop to
say hello to a new face:) (Actually, any
bludgeoning might exist only in my imagination, but it
certainly has been a very challenging - and enjoyably
so - month for my brain.)<<
This is one of the things which struck me straight
away about this list, the level of intelligence in the
conversations - don't get me wrong, I can babble along
with the best of them, when it comes to how gorgeous,
I think Avon is :-) but that level of chatter can't be
kept up forever, I don't agree with all the
philosophies on this list but I have enjoyed reading
them.
>>Normally when new arrivals appear they do get a few
welcome messages, but then we're not normally so
distracted. So may I at least say, Welcome to the
Lyst, Cheryl.<<
Thank you for the welcome :-)