I *like* non-dominant men. Better listeners, more
respectful, more
supportive, not only compared to egotistical men,
but also compared to
many females.
So men who aren't submissive are egotistical? I prefer an egalitarian relationship, myself-- neither partner dominant *or* submissive.
Non-dominant CAN mean equal, rather than submissive. You complain about others not thinking before they write, and then come up with this?
If Jenna, Cally, Soolin and Dayna could hold their own against the men, why do you think the women on the list can't?
I never said we couldn't hold our own. I just think they would be annoying IRL. It's my way of reversing the question of whether Avon or anyone would space any of us... why not ask if *we* would put up with them.
interesting that you pick on the two men who are a) mentally neutered (Gan), and b) weak and timid (Vila)-- as long as he isn't sexual?
Gan does not try to dominate or annoy people. His chip only keeps him from using lethal violence. I DON'T consider that nuetered. Vila should not make passes at me because I am a happily married woman. However, those two would not a) order me into danger b) gratutiously insult me because I'm not from their educational system c) try to space me d) leave me out of the planning I don't however trust Blake, Avon or Tarrant not to do most or all of the above. I *was* being flippant; I probably wouldn't really strand them on planet, rather, walk away from the situation while I could. I'm not a thief, after all. But I am serious about finding the company of men who respect me preferble to those who don't. The same goes for women. I don't need to be liked, but I do need respect.
--- Helen Krummenacker avona@jps.net wrote:
I *like* non-dominant men. Better listeners,
more
respectful, more
supportive, not only compared to egotistical
men,
but also compared to
many females.
So men who aren't submissive are egotistical? I
prefer
an egalitarian relationship, myself-- neither partner dominant
*or*
submissive.
Non-dominant CAN mean equal, rather than submissive. You complain about others not thinking before they write, and then come up with this?
Excuse me, but I *was* thinking. The first post, which I quoted in full above, said "non-dominant men" were better than "egotistical men" which suggested to me that you saw men who were not non-dominant as egotistical. Guess we both misunderstood what the other meant.
And I agree with the rest of what you said.
Wendy
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