New subject: reasons

24 Mar 2001


      Shane and Fiona effectively made the same point I think -
...
But this isn't getting rid of the feelings of shame though, it's just
displacing them.
I like the idea that women should feel more relaxed about their own
feelings, but we don't live in a world of perfect political struggle. People
want to enjoy themselves, and there has to be room for both challenging the
conventions of society (for them that want to) and fun. And people have to
have fun in ways that accommodate the imperfections of the world we actually
live in. We can't wait until everything is right before we start enjoying
ourselves.
Of course, it is quite possible that 'even in a perfect world where everyone
were
equal' women would still fantasise about good looking men getting it on,
just as a 'holiday' from real life, which is probably always going to be a
bit stressful even in the best of all worlds.
...
But is it still deemed 'bad' if a gay man does it?
To women, in general, I'd say not (though there are obvious exceptions). I
think women generally feel much less anxiety around male sexual expression
than around their own, and that extends to gay men. This is just my
impression.
Alison

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