Shane and Fiona effectively made the same point I think -
But this isn't getting rid of the feelings of shame though, it's just displacing them.
I like the idea that women should feel more relaxed about their own feelings, but we don't live in a world of perfect political struggle. People want to enjoy themselves, and there has to be room for both challenging the conventions of society (for them that want to) and fun. And people have to have fun in ways that accommodate the imperfections of the world we actually live in. We can't wait until everything is right before we start enjoying ourselves.
Of course, it is quite possible that 'even in a perfect world where everyone were equal' women would still fantasise about good looking men getting it on, just as a 'holiday' from real life, which is probably always going to be a bit stressful even in the best of all worlds.
But is it still deemed 'bad' if a gay man does it?
To women, in general, I'd say not (though there are obvious exceptions). I think women generally feel much less anxiety around male sexual expression than around their own, and that extends to gay men. This is just my impression.
Alison