Alison wrote
Shane and Fiona effectively made the same point I think -
But this isn't getting rid of the feelings of shame though, it's just displacing them.
I like the idea that women should feel more relaxed about their own feelings, but we don't live in a world of perfect political struggle.
People
want to enjoy themselves, and there has to be room for both challenging
the
conventions of society (for them that want to) and fun. And people have to have fun in ways that accommodate the imperfections of the world we
actually
live in. We can't wait until everything is right before we start enjoying ourselves.
No, but we can change our mindset, and IMO one way to do this is to create fictional universes in which women can do whatever the hell they like.
But is it still deemed 'bad' if a gay man does it?
To women, in general, I'd say not (though there are obvious exceptions). I think women generally feel much less anxiety around male sexual expression than around their own, and that extends to gay men. This is just my impression.
Fair enough, but it has also been said that slash denies gay identity (i.e. the stories along the lines of "Blake's not gay, he just has sex with Avon") and doesn't give much of a voice to lesbians, or address the real political issues which I'm sure gay people face even in a future society. I know, it's all a fantasy, but IMO it raises some disturbing questions about RL politics.
Shane
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